Monday of the Eleventh Week in Ordinary Time
“For greater things you were born.” (Ven. Mother Luisita)
MONDAY, June 14th Mt. 5: 38-42 Jesus said to his disciples: “You have heard it said, ‘An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.’But I say to you, offer no resistance to one who is evil. When someone strikes you on your right cheek, turn the other one to him as well.”
“No one heals himself by wounding another.” St. Ambrose of Milan
“There are many kinds of alms; the giving of which helps us to obtain pardon for our sins; but none is greater than that by which we forgive from our heart a sin that someone has committed against us.” St. Augustine
“The saints rejoiced at injuries and persecutions, because in forgiving them they had something to present to God when they prayed to Him.” St. Teresa of Avila
“He who knows how to forgive prepares for himself many graces from God. As often as I look upon the cross, so often will I forgive with all my heart.” St. Faustina
Part 1: FORGIVENESS… by Father Jacques Philippe
Part 2: FIVE WAYS TO PRACTICE FORGIVENESS by Fr. Ed Broom, OMV
PART 1: FORGIVENESS… by Father Jacques Philippe
Of course there are cases when the suffering other people causes us is due to a real fault on their part. The proper attitude then is something demanding and difficult: forgiveness.
Modern culture doesn’t rate forgiveness very highly. More often it justifies resentment and revenge. But does that reduce the amount of evil in the world? The only way to diminish the suffering that burdens mankind is by forgiveness.
It bears repeating… that unless we understand the importance of forgiveness and practice it in our relations with others, we will never achieve inner freedom but will always be prisoners of our own bitterness.
When we refuse to forgive someone for harm done to us, we are adding another wrong to the first. That solves nothing at all. We are increasing the quantity of evil in the world, which has quite enough as it is. Let us not join in the propagation of evil!
Saint Paul tells us, “Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good!” (Rom 12:21)
PART 2: FIVE WAYS TO PRACTICE FORGIVENESS by Fr. Ed Broom, OMV
The renowned English poet Alexander Pope stated: “To err is human; to forgive is divine.” How true this statement, but how difficult it can be! Holding on to resentment indeed is interior slavery. Whereas, to forgive is truly imitating God Himself, but also setting the captive free and that captive is us!
Frequently and in unequivocal terms Jesus has reaffirmed the indispensable obligation of all to forgive those who hurt us, to pray for our enemies, and do good to those who hurt us! Once again, easier said than done! Actually without God’s grace to forgive those who have wounded us, and to love and pray for our enemies, far transcends and supersedes our natural powers. In sum, we need Gods’ grace to forgive our enemies.
Jesus is our example in all, in absolutely all we say, do and even think in our daily lives! Indeed He said it clearly: “I am the Way, the Truth, and the Life.” Jesus first began by doing, and then by His preaching. First actions, then words.
His very demanding teaching on forgiveness, He Himself lived to perfection at every stage and moment of His earthly existence.
What are some of the teachings of Jesus on mercy and forgiveness? Let’s meditate on a few of them. “Be merciful as your Heavenly Father is merciful.” (Lk. 6:36) In response to Peter’s generous willingness to forgive seven times, Jesus upped it to forgive always: “Now I say to you, forgive seventy times seven.” (Mt. 18:20) This is hyperbole for the imperious obligation to forgive always, without limits or reservations.
Then Jesus made a Liturgical/Mass allusion. He said that if you come to Church to present your offering and you know that your brother has something against you, simply leave the offering at the foot of the altar, reconcile with your brother and then return to offer the gift. In other words, to celebrate worthily the Liturgy we should strive to be at peace with our brothers and sisters, and not be angry and resentful towards anybody.
Then in the most famous prayer in the world, the Our Father, Jesus inserted this imperious command: “Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.” (Mt 6:12) In other words, forgiveness from God is a two way street. If we want to be a recipient of God’s forgiveness, then necessarily we must forgive those who have hurt us.
Finally, the most eloquent witness of God’s forgiveness for all of humanity and for each of us individually was when Jesus hung upon the cross after having been scourged, crowned with thorns, spat upon and mocked, forgotten and abandoned by His loved ones, derided and mocked incessantly. What was His response as He hung on the cross ready to breathe forth His spirit? These words: “Father forgive them, for they know not what they are doing.” (Lk. 23:34)
Following are five short, concrete suggestions to help us on the pathway to forgiveness and mercy!
1. Beg for the Grace
To forgive our enemies, to pray for them and to love them goes far beyond our fallen human nature. We desperately need God’s overflowing and abundant graces. Saint Augustine says that we are all beggars before God. Therefore, we should beg for the grace to forgive when we are put to the test. God will not deny us this petition and important grace!
2. Forgive Immediately
When we are offended, often the devil works on us right away fostering thoughts of revenge in our mind. Such ugly and vindictive thoughts can easily surface: “Get even!”…“Teach him a lesson.”… “Give him a taste of his own medicine.”… “Eye for an eye and tooth for a tooth.” Finally, “Don’t let him get away with it.” In a certain sense, as one Protestant preacher put it succinctly: “We desire to forgive him, but only after we see him squirm like a worm in hot ashes, at least for a while.” These thoughts and feelings are diametrically opposed to the teaching of Our Merciful Savior, so we must resist them and reject them as soon as we become aware of them. Therefore, if we respond to God’s grace and mercy, and forgive immediately, there is a very good chance that the victory will be ours. In sum, be quick to reject vindictive thoughts and even more rapid to forgive!
However, if we are still struggling with forgiveness, start praying Hail Marys for them non-stop! Every moment your mind is free, pray Hail Marys for them. Keep praying until the bad feelings dissipate. If the bad feelings recur, begin praying Hail Marys for them again! In this way, Mother Mary will do for us what we cannot do for ourselves – restore calm and peace to our soul! The captive Mary sets free will be ourselves!
3. Humility
Another efficacious spiritual weapon that we have in our armory is humility. How? In this way! If forgiveness proves laborious and near impossible, then call to mind your worst sin, or your most embarrassing sin, and the fact that God forgave you as soon as you begged for His mercy and forgiveness. Most likely, the offense that was leveled against you is minimal in comparison with your most grave or embarrassing sin. This can prove to be a powerful tool to open up your heart in mercy and forgiveness!
4. Mercy is a Two-Way Street
Next, remember that receiving God’s mercy is not a dead-end street, but rather a two-way street! Meaning? Jesus said: “Be merciful as your Heavenly Father is merciful… and forgive.” Therefore, if we want to experience God’s Infinite Mercy in our lives, we must extend our hand in forgiveness towards those who have offended us. The Our Father teaches us the same lesson: “Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.” Saint Faustina Kowalska in her Diary Divine Mercy in My Soul asserts unequivocally that the greatest attribute or virtue in God is His Infinite Mercy. Followers of Jesus the merciful Savior must practice this sublime but very demanding virtue. Mercy is God’s love forgiving the sinner. Our deciding to forgive our enemies is a clear sign of the victory of God’s grace and mercy in our lives!
5. Jesus Bleeding on the Cross for You
Possibly the most convincing motivational force to compel us to forgive those who offend us is the serene but serious contemplation of Jesus hanging on the cross, shedding every drop of His most Precious Blood to save all of humanity, but in particular to save your immortal soul. When you have been hurt and unwilling to forgive, lift up your eyes to contemplate Jesus as He hangs on the cross. Remember what He has already gone through—sweating His precious Blood in the Garden, scourged at the Pillar His flesh hanging in shreds, crowned with thorns piercing His brow, denied by Peter, betrayed by Judas, condemned though totally innocent, and finally nailed to the cross where He shed every drop of His Precious Blood for you and me.
What were the first words that issued forth from the most Sacred Heart of Jesus? Listen, contemplate, and pray! “Father, forgive them for they know not what they are doing!” (Lk. 23-34) Meditating upon these words, coupled with the contemplation of Jesus’ bitter Passion, suffering and death on the cross, shedding every drop of His most Precious Blood for us, should be a most efficacious hammer to crush the most hardened heart unwilling to forgive!
Finally, beg Our Lady of Sorrows, Our Lady of Mercy for the grace to forgive. Nobody ever suffered more than Mary, aside from Jesus Himself! She heard and witnessed her only Son suffer and die on the cross, brutally mistreated, yet she forgave us from the depths of her Immaculate Heart. May Our Lady attain for us the grace to forgive, to be merciful, and merit the title to be truly the son or daughter of God the Father, brother or sister to Jesus Christ, and friend of the Holy Spirit in time and for all eternity! Amen.
