One of the most fascinating stories in the History of the Church and the History of civilization is the person, the life, and the radical transformation of Augustine of Hippo. The transformation would be nothing less than his conversion, sanctification and life of extraordinary holiness.

Every non-believer is potentially a believer; every pagan one day can be a Christian; also, every hardened sinner can be transformed into a radiant saint. How true the maxim: “All things are possible for God.” With His grace, God can transform the worst morally speaking into the best reflection of sanctity.

Every person’s past does not determine their future. Even the most dastardly of sinners, living the worst lives, can end in total victory. How ironic it really is that the first canonized saint, the first saint who was declared that his place would be in heaven, was none other than one of the thieves who hung on a cross beside Jesus on Mount Calvary that first Good Friday afternoon. 

At the very end of his life, the thief turned to Jesus and begged Him: “Lord, remember me when you come into your Kingdom.” The response of Jesus: “Amen, I say to you, today you will be with me in Paradise.” (Lk. 23: 42-43) And  Venerable Fulton J. Sheen replied: “And the good thief died a thief because he stole heaven.”

Returning to Augustine, the first half of his life was far from perfect. Quite the contrary, his early years were splotched with a multitude of sins. When a child, as a result of peer pressure, he stole. His friends entered an orchard and stole pears. Even though Augustine’s conscience warned him not to steal the pears, he did anyway. He did not want to be different from the crowd.

However, what is most pertinent to our reflection is the family of Augustine and his fatal flaw, his predominant weakness, his overpowering Capital Sin. Using modern terminology, Augustine was brought up and raised in a dysfunctional family.

His father, Patricius, did not give Augustine a splendid model of holiness. Quite the opposite! Augustine’s father had three glaring moral weaknesses: violence, intemperance, and lust.

Augustine’s father would fly off the handle and explode at the drop of a hat. His carousing, drinking and getting drunk was part and parcel of Augustine’s upbringing. As if that were not enough of a bad influence, Patricius was a real womanizer. He fell far from the mark in being faithful to his wife Monica.

Consequently, as a result of this catastrophically immoral father image, Augustine followed in his father’s footsteps, most specifically with respect to lust, the disordered desires of the flesh.

When his passions were ripe, the young Augustine gave free rein to the desires of the flesh. He eventually lived with a woman. Giving thus into his passions resulted in Augustine and his concubine having a child together, whose name was Adeodatus—meaning, “Gift of God”.

Time went on and as one year gave way to another year, Augustine practiced his career in rhetoric—the art of public speaking. From Africa he moved to Rome, and from Rome to Milan in northern Italy.

Gifted with a keen intellect and an ability to teach the art of public speaking, Augustine experienced in the depths of his heart a loneliness, a sadness, a depression, and a real uneasiness.

He understood that his major drawback was the simple fact that he was a slave to his passions, to his lusts. We can even say in modern jargon that Augustine was a sex addict. That’s right, Saint Augustine really was a sex addict. He knew in the depths of his heart that he had to give up his lusts; he had to break the chain of his sexual addiction; he had to smash this slavery that was fiercely binding him. The battle was so fierce that he cried out: “Lord, give me chastity, but not yet.”

Saint Paul expressed it in more or less the same words, saying that he knew the good that he should do, but he was powerless to carry out the good that he knew was best for him. Jesus expressed the battle as such: “The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.” (Mt. 26: 41)

However, victory was about to triumph in this slave of addiction to his sexual passions. Augustine was in a garden in Milan when it seemed as if the voice of a child was chiming a poem that resounded in his ears: “Tolle legge, tolle legge, tolle legge—take and read!”

Nearby was a book and it was actually the New Testament opened to one of the Letters of Saint Paul to the Romans. Augustine picked up the text and read it:  “Let us then throw off the works of darkness and put on the armor of light. Let us conduct ourselves properly as in the day, not in orgies and drunkenness, not in promiscuity and licentiousness, not in rivalry and jealousy. But put on the Lord Jesus Christ and make no provisions for the desires of the flesh.” (Romans 13: 12-13)

In this moment, these words of an angel, this text from Romans, and the mind and heart of Augustine now receptive to grace, resulted in his desire for conversion.

Augustine, who had been addicted to disordered sexual desires into his early thirties, made the decision to cut the chain of his slavery in that moment in the garden in Milan.

Augustine went quickly to his mother, Saint Monica, and told her that he was ready now to be baptized. He was ready to abandon his past and start a new life. He truly was ready and willing to start this new life. He would abandon the past to God’s infinite mercy, leave the future to God’s providential care, and live fully the Sacrament of the present moment.

In fact, Jesus had been knocking at the door of his heart for many years now and Augustine was finally ready to open the door fully so that Jesus could sit at the table and dine with him and initiate a new, dynamic and profound friendship.

To make a long story short, Augustine would be baptized with his son, and with his good friend Alypius, by the great Saint Ambrose in the Duomo of Milan, amidst the tears of joy of his mother Saint Monica.

Augustine was embraced by Jesus when he embraced the virtue of chastity in his new lifestyle. He experienced an interior freedom that he had never before experienced. The chains had fallen; the slavery was vanquished; the addiction immersed, submerged and drowned in the love of the Heart of Jesus.

Augustine went on to receive Holy Orders of the priesthood. He would be proclaimed a Bishop in Africa. Eventually he would found an Order—the Augustinians. The rest of his life as Bishop, he would fight against the many heretics of the day—the Arians, Manicheans, Vandals, and more.

Augustine, who would become the great Saint Augustine, would be inspired by the Holy Spirit to become one of the greatest teachers, preachers, but most important, writers in the history of the Church, in the history of the world.

Any well-learned scholar, whether he be a believer or even non-believer, cannot help but admire the literary genius of the great Saint Augustine. Indeed, if you have the chance, spend time reading, meditating, and reflecting upon his masterpiece Confessions.

Now whatever slavery, addiction or binding chain that we may be battling with, we must realize that we are not alone. In fact, the Word of God teaches us that if we decide to follow the Lord, we should be prepared for battle.

BATTLEGROUND.  Our battle must be waged on three fronts: 1) The devil who is the Father of lies; 2) The flesh, or concupiscence, that does not want to submit to the spirit; 3) The world that strives to convince us that true happiness can be found in this world.

AUGUSTINE AS A MODEL.  In our struggle to attain the true liberty of the sons and daughters of God, let us take Augustine, who became the great Saint Augustine, as our model.  Many of us, in fact most of us, can easily identify with Augustine and in many ways.

• PAGANISM.  Augustine lived in a truly pagan-world; recently, we all must admit that our society is permeated by a militant neo-paganism.
• DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY.  Many today come from, and perhaps still live in, a dysfunctional family.
• FATHER-WOUND.  Many suffer from addictions and slaveries in one form or another due to the lack of the presence, love and attention of a father. Most obviously, Augustine had a gaping father’s wound.
• ADDICTION/SEXUAL ADDICTION.  Augustine was a slave of a sexual addiction. In a pornographic society many have addictions, and many are related to sexual addictions.
• CONVERSION. Augustine was able to undergo a radical conversion of life. There were many factors, especially the prayers of his mother, Saint Monica, as well as openness to grace. If Augustine could break the chain of his sexual addiction, so can we break the many chains that bind us.

In sum, let us pray and meditate over the life, the conversion, and the transformation of Augustine to Saint Augustine. In fact, God has great plans for all of us once we can listen to the voice of the Lord Jesus who calls us, as He called Augustine, Matthew, and the Good Thief. The worst lives of the past can be transformed into the best of lives in the future. That life can be yours!!!

Jesus stated with great clarity that sin is actually slavery; He came to give us freedom, the freedom of the sons and daughters of God. Saint Augustine, who was actually a slave to his sexual passions until he was 31, later on in The Confessions stated: “O Lord, you have made our hearts for thee; our heart is not at peace until it rests in thee.” Augustine stated himself that he could not conquer his sexual addiction right away; such was the case that he was known to have said: “Lord, give me chastity, but not yet.”

Addictions and slavery are many. In a real sense, we are all born with a void or hole, an empty vacuum in our souls. It must be filled! Either it will be filled with God Himself or a false god, an idol, a fake, a reflection but not the reality. Once again Saint Augustine taught: “The human heart is called to love. However, we must choose the object of our love and then love with all our heart.” If the object of our heart, which is actually a Person—Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ—is not discovered, then there is a real danger!!! The danger is that we can easily fall in love with a false-god, and there are many, and we can be both addicted and enslaved.  

What then are some of the idols, the false-gods that enslave us and lead to binding addictions? Actually, they come in many different shapes and sizes, but there indeed are many. The following is a concrete list of addictions: drinking (alcoholism), drug abuse, sexual addictions including that of pornography, the Casino and gambling, compulsive buying (“shop until you drop”), overuse of the cell-phone, overeating (gluttony), gossiping, video-games, vacationing and over-sleeping. All of these can become addictions and there are still many more.

BLINDNESS TO THE PROBLEM. One of the worst enemies to conquering any problem, false-idol, or deep-rooted addiction is the blindness, or better yet, the unwillingness to humbly admit that there exists this problem. There is a Spanish proverb that expresses this clearly: “No hay peor ciego que aquel que no quiere ver; no hay peor sordo que aquel que no quiere oir.” Translation: “No worse blind person than the one who does not want to see; no worse deaf person than the one who does not want to hear.”

Therefore, one of the first steps in overcoming any vice, sin, or addiction is to humbly admit that we have that problem. In other words, we cannot enter into denial, or rationalize, or let’s be blunt, we cannot lie to ourselves. 

Once we can come to terms with the reality that we have a problem and that we cannot resolve it by our own meager efforts, then we have already entered onto the Highway of healing, happiness, wholeness and holiness!!!

As a result of Original Sin, all of humanity, with the exception of Jesus who is the Son of God and Mary who is the Immaculate Conception and the sinless one, are wounded. The wounds are deep in our minds, our emotions, our hearts, our souls, and even our bodies.  We are all in a real sense a walking, gaping wound.

This is the dynamic! Jesus is THE WOUNDED HEALER.  Either we will be wounded-wounders or we will be wounded-healers. How will this play out? Quite simply as such. If we live with our wounds and make no effort whatsoever to heal these gaping wounds, then the wounds will grow bigger and bigger.  However, if we seek healing, then we indeed can be healed. 

Our healing can come about only by approaching with great confidence Jesus, THE WOUNDED HEALER. He can definitely and efficaciously heal our wounds. Peruse and meditate upon the Gospels, most specifically on the encounters between Jesus and the many sick, infirm, suffering, dejected and rejected gaping-wounded of His time.

NEVER REJECTION: YES, HEALING!  The interesting fact of the Life of Jesus is that He rejected nobody who came to Him with faith, humility, and confidence. Quite the contrary, Jesus the WOUNDED-HEALER, would heal, and almost always the healing would be both immediate and total, and without cost!

WHO WERE THESE?  Many of those who had these gaping wounds were drawn to Jesus as if He was a Human Magnet, from all times and places.  Just to mention a few: the paralytic carried by the four, the lepers, the blind, the deaf and the mute, the woman with the blood-flow, the man with the withered hand. All of these wounded persons were loved by Jesus and He healed them immediately, totally, and unreservedly.  These were the wounded of the society who sought their healing from Jesus, the Divine Physician.

THE WOUNDED LAMB. The Prophet Isaiah made this prophecy of the Suffering Servant and his wounds—all pointing to Jesus who would become this wounded lamb. “He was like a lamb that was led to the slaughter-house. He opened not his mouth. He was wounded and bruised for our sake. And by His wounds we are healed.” (Is. 53: 5, 7)

Let us all humbly admit with the utmost sincerity that we are wounded, that we make up part of the enormous multitude of gaping-wounded persons of the world. However, the great news is that there is a Healer, there is a Doctor in the House, there is a Divine Physician and His Name is Jesus Christ.

If we can expose our gaping wounds to His own wounds, then He can heal us totally and efficaciously. Just as Jesus healed the paralytic, the ten lepers, the blind, the deaf, the mute, and even raised the dead, giving them new life, so He can heal us.

Therefore, let us take off the bandages; let us expose the wounds, the puss and infection, to Our Lord Jesus Christ. His Divine touch will never wound deeper, but rather it will heal securely. As a result of our encounter, our contact and touching of Jesus, we will become indeed WOUNDED-HEALERS in a wounded and broken world.

THE GOOD NEWS: FREEDOM OF THE SONS AND DAUGHTERS OF GOD. The Great News is the following: we are no longer slaves bound to addictions. We no longer have to live in slavery and sin bound to addictions. Jesus, who is truly the Divine Physician, is indeed THE WAY, THE TRUTH AND THE LIFE!!! The Lord Jesus desires, more than we do ourselves, that He stretch out His hand and heal us; if only we will allow Him to touch us!

As a Deacon in 1985, in the city of Rome, I had the privilege of visiting and serving the sick in the Hospital of Saint John of God in Rome. In this huge hospital overlooking the Trastevere, the Religious Order of Saint John of God served the sick and elderly, seeing in them the Person of Jesus.

Several decades have passed since I visited and served the sick in that Hospital. What I remember most from this short visit that I made as a Deacon in Holy Week is not the Hospital, nor its geographical location, nor even the sick patients. What I do remember, and it left an indelible impression on me, is the exquisite manners of the Brothers who served in that Hospital.

A most warm welcome, winning smiles, kind and encouraging words, an exquisite repast, all of this and more flowed almost spontaneously from the Brothers of the Community in the Hospital of Saint John of God. Indeed, I felt treated as if I were a Prince, better yet, a King.

Remarking on their most delicate and exquisite manners and sincere hospitality, I complimented one of the Brothers of Saint John of God as I made my departure returning to the Seminary. My words: “In all honesty, you brothers are truly superb in your hospitality.” Spontaneously, and with the utmost humility, the Brother of Saint John of God responded: “Well, we better have been hospitable because that is actually our fourth vow: Poverty, Chastity, Obedience, and the vow of Hospitality!” Up to that point in my formation, even though I am a Religious priest, it never dawned on me that there could be four vows, much less one of Hospitality.

In all honesty, of all of the human and natural virtues, what Saint Thomas calls the social virtues, that of Hospitality has a special rank in my hierarchy of values. In fact, what condiments and seasoning are to food, so is hospitality to social dealings and encounters. Quite the contrary is the rude, discourteous, and selfish individual.

In the Old Testament, the Jewish people put a high premium value on the virtue of Hospitality. So much so that Abraham welcomed three strangers with so much courtesy that these three guests were actually angels sent from God to announce the good news that Abraham and Sarah, despite their old age, would have a child. All of this took place in the context of an exquisite manifestation of Hospitality.

Jesus Himself willingly accepted gestures of Hospitality and several times in the course of His three years of Public life. After Jesus called Matthew to follow Him, Matthew generously prepared a banquet for Jesus, and invited his friends whom he knew would also befriend Jesus.

Of all of the manifestations of hospitality perhaps Martha and Mary in Bethany was the most noteworthy. (Luke 10: 38-42) Mary sat at the feet of Jesus and engaged in a loving conversation. Preoccupied with all the details of hospitality, Martha wrapped herself in a nervous frenzy. Jesus gently rebuked Martha about being worried about many things. Mary chose the better part and she would not be deprived of it. Both Mary and Martha practiced hospitality. Mary entertained Jesus; Martha, for her part, served Jesus.

Now let us enter into another dimension or specific manner in which we should cultivate an authentic attitude of Hospitality. Let’s call it EUCHARISTIC HOSPITALITY. On a human and natural level, as expressed above, we should all strive to cultivate the virtue of hospitality. Perhaps not by taking a vow like the Brothers of Saint John of God, but at least living out hospitality in our dealings with others.

In a parallel, but very real sense, let us apply the attitude of Hospitality in the way that we treat Jesus in His Real Presence in the Holy Eucharist, Mass and Holy Communion.

What then are concrete ways that all of us can ameliorate our manners of hospitality in the way that we receive Jesus in the Mass, in the Eucharist, in our reception of Holy Communion? It is our hope that some concrete suggestions can upgrade the efficacy of our Holy Communions. In fact, there is no greater action in the world than the reception of Jesus in the Sacrament of the Holy Eucharist.  

In fact, our eternal salvation might depend in a large measure on exactly how we do receive the Eucharistic Lord. He promised that He is the Bread of Life and that those who receive His Body and Blood worthily will have eternal life. (Jn 6)

TEN STEPS TO LIVE OUT EUCHARISTIC HOSPITALITY IN OUR LIVES

1. CLEAN THE HOUSE.  Spring cleaning is part of the yearly routine for most households. How about soul-cleaning?  With a bottle of Windex and a dry newspaper, the dirtiest of windows can shine as bright as the sun. So it is with the soul that is cleansed by the Blood of the Lamb of God who takes away the sins of the world in the Sacrament of Confession. In a word, the efficacy of the fruits of Holy Communion depends on the purity of soul affected by a Sacramental Confession.

2. DO NOT TAKE THE MASS AND COMMUNION FOR GRANTED.  It is easy to take others for granted, especially our family members. The same can be said of the Mass and Holy Communion, especially in places where daily Mass is plentiful and access to Mass and Communion is easy. On Sacristy walls often can be seen a plaque with the poignant words: “Priest, man of God, say this Mass as if it were your first Mass, last Mass, and only Mass.” Likewise, we should receive Holy Communion every time as if it were our first, our last, and our only Holy Communion. It should not be the cynical saying: “Proximity breeds animosity.” Rather, the more we receive the Lord in Holy Communion, the more we should thank and love the Lord Jesus!

3. COME EARLY; AVOID BEING TARDY!  Before starting any sporting event, an athlete always arrives early for warm-up exercises; if not, it is easy to pull a muscle or a hamstring and then be out of the lineup for weeks. So it is in the spiritual life, we should arrive early for Mass so that we can warm-up. The transition from the active life to the contemplative takes time and energy; allow this so as to enter into the mood, the spiritual milieu of Holy Mass. Remember, you are entering onto Holy ground, more holy than the ground that Moses tread upon!

4. GUARDIAN ANGEL’S HELP.  All too unfortunate is the reality of how little we pay attention to the person and purpose of our Guardian angel. Each and every one of us, from the moment of our conception, is given a Guardian angel to watch over us, to guide and to help us get to heaven.  Few are aware of the fact that our Guardian Angel can help us to pray, to focus and pay attention, in the greatest of all prayers—the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass. Ask your Guardian Angel to pray with you and for you at Mass!

5. OFFER YOUR OWN INTENTIONS.  In Parish settings usually every Mass has a specific intention that somebody has offered, often months before. This person and intention is commonly mentioned by the priest at the start of Holy Mass. Nonetheless, this does not exclude our personal intentions that can be offered.

6. WHAT INTENTIONS TO OFFER?  Actually, there are no limits. I will offer at times so many intentions that I fear the altar might collapse. In all honesty, there are no limits to our intentions, but I would suggest three:

a) PURGATORY. Always offer your Mass and Holy Communion for the souls in Purgatory and at least for one person who has passed from this life to the next.

b) CONVERSION OF SINNERS. Never fail to offer your Communion for the conversion of poor sinners, most especially death-bed sinners who are about to die and are not in God’s grace.

c) PERSONAL CONVERSION. In every Holy Communion beg the Eucharistic Lord to give you a personal Heart-transplant. May the Heart of Jesus transform your sinful heart into His Heart!

7. PARTICIPATE IN HOLY MASS.  The Dogmatic Constitution on the Liturgy and Mass, Sacrosanctum Concilium, asserts that we should strive to participate fully, actively, and consciously in the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass. There are Masses that I have witnessed where it seemed as if the congregation’s participation was partial at best, passive, almost as if those present were in a coma!!!

8. NEVER FORGET THE “BIG 3” CONDITIONS TO RECEIVE THE EUCHARIST WORTHILY. The Catechism teaches with utmost clarity that to receive the Eucharist worthily there are three basic and indispensable conditions.

a) BELIEF IN THE REAL PRESENCE. Nobody should ever approach the Eucharistic without first having a firm belief that Holy Communion is truly the Body, Blood, Soul, and Divinity of Jesus, the Son of God.

b) FASTING. An Hour of fasting is required before receiving Jesus in Holy Communion.

c) STATE OF GRACE. Nobody should approach the Eucharistic Lord being aware of having committed a Mortal sin. Sacramental Confession and Absolution must be received before receiving Jesus the Bread of Life.

9. EUCHARISTIC MANNERS UPON RECEPTION.  Before receiving the Lord Jesus in Holy Communion, we should approach with great reverence. Hands should be folded, an act of reverence should be made, and the reception should be done with great humility, modesty, confidence, and burning love.

10. THANKSGIVING.  After receiving Jesus in Holy Communion, we should spend some quiet time in which we talk to the Lord Jesus. This is the height of Eucharistic hospitality. Like Mary in Bethany, we should receive Jesus with love; we should listen to Him; we should gaze at Him within our heart, and most important, we should tell Him that we love Him!

My friends in the Lord Jesus, let us humbly beg the Blessed Virgin Mary, who always welcomed Jesus into her life from the moment of her Virginal Conception until Jesus ascended into Heaven, that we would truly practice hospitality. But most especially, let us warmly receive Jesus into our hearts in Holy Communion. If done, then He will receive us one day into Heaven. Amen

A very interesting phenomenon: observing a person pass from a state of interior tension manifested by exterior tension to a state of peace and tranquility! Very often this is the case of a penitent standing in the line and preparing to receive the Sacrament of Confession, wherein tension is experienced. However, upon leaving the Confessional, having confessed and received absolution, interior peace radiates even from the very countenance of the person.

About 35 years ago, Mary Ann Budnik wrote a short but marvelous book on the Sacrament of Confession with the title, “Looking for Peace? Try Confession!”  This mother encouraged the frequent reception of the Sacrament of Confession for the peace and sanctification of the family members.

Budnik made this astute observation! When there was mounting tension, pressure, as well as an increase of disagreements and quarrels among the family members, the conclusion was very clear: time for the family members (and this means all of the family members) to head for the confessional.

Undoubtedly, after each and every family member made a good confession, there would reign peace among the family members. This mother noticed this interesting occurrence.

Theologically this holds water and stands to reason. For this simple reason: among the several effects that sin produces are tension, turmoil, selfishness, pride, self-love and fights. A good Sacramental confession militates against all of the above negative fruits of sin.

This being said, an excellent proposal to fortify sanctity, harmony, love, peace and joy in the family, also known as the “Domestic Church”, should be the practice of monthly family confessions. From the Dad to the youngest member who can go to confession, all should make their monthly Sacramental Confession. Remember the title of Budnik’s book: “Looking for Peace? Try Confession!” Try it! It works! Why not today, priest of the family – the Father, decide upon a day and an hour every month and instill monthly confession as a habit for your entire family!

THE FOUR C’S TO MAKE A GOOD SACRAMENTAL MONTHLY CONFESSION.

The Founder of OPUS DEI, Saint Josemaria Escriva Balaguer, coined a four-word catchy acronym to help us make a good Sacramental confession. Let us list the four and then we can explain them; even more important, let us implement them! Behold the four C’s to make a good Confession: 1) Clear, 2) Concise, 3) Concrete, and 4) Complete. Let’s explain them one at a time.

1. CLEAR.  In the Diary of Saint Faustina, “Divine Mercy in My Soul”, Jesus specified to the Saint that the starting point for an efficacious reception of Confession is the indispensable quality of TRANSPARENCY. Another word for transparency is that of clarity, or if you like, being clear. Whereas to the contrary, confusion, murkiness, blurriness, ambiguity are all signs of the enemy of our soul, the devil himself. While signs of the Good Spirit are that of clarity and transparency. Therefore, when you speak to the priest in the Confessional, who represents Jesus Christ, the Divine Physician, speak slowly, clearly, moderately, sincerely and with great openness. The primary effect of the Sacrament of Confession is healing of the wounds that we contract due to sin. Sin wounds us; Jesus, the Divine Physician, heals us. A Doctor will not be able to heal the sick patient unless the patient reveals his bodily maladies with transparency and clarity. The greater the clarity of the malady, the better the applications of the remedy.

2. CONCISE.  Perhaps the most renowned saint and Confessor in the Catholic Church was Saint John Marie Vianney, also known as the Cure of Ars.  Once he overcame the many obstacles he encountered when he first came to the Parish, people from all over flooded to his confessional. It is calculated that he confessed from 13 to 18 hours every day for close to forty years. His magnetism as a priest, confessor, and living saint reached a point that people would be waiting sometimes for days to enter his confessional. His biographers noted that, as a general rule, he did not spend an extended period of time with each penitent. Usually, though not always because there are always extenuating circumstances, a confession would take about three minutes. Concise means that the penitent should be well-prepared for their confession. What could be very helpful is for the penitent to actually write down their sins before entering the confessional. Also, even before meeting the priest, the penitent should have already made an effort to make a perfect Act of Contrition. In a word, 95% of making a good confession is what has been done before the penitent enters the confessional. In the TV Program Dragnet with Joe Friday, there is the classical and unforgettable statement that he would make before entering into the case: “JUST THE FACTS MA’AM, JUST THE FACTS….” In a parallel sense, the penitent should enter the confessional with this primary purpose: “JUST THE SINS MA’AM; JUST THE SINS….” Elements that are extraneous to Confession should be set aside. To be absolutely clear: the primary substance and content of any good confession is the sincere, transparent and concise confession of one’s own personal sins. This being said, your confession should not be the confession of your husband or wife, son, daughter or mother-in-law, but your own personal sins. At times, it might be the case that we talk too much because we are skirting the real issue of our own sins. Concise means brief and to the point; not long-winded and beating around the bush!

3. CONCRETE.  Another essential quality of making a good Sacramental Confession is the importance of being concrete in expressing our sins. Such abstract expressions should be avoided: “I’m not good enough… I could be a better person… I’m not perfect… I broke the commandments… I am a really bad sinner… I failed God… My words could be better… I am just like the mass of humanity – a sinner… My sins are like everyone else’s.” All of the above are abstract, abstruse, nebulous, intangible, extremely generic and lacking in concrete expression. Concrete examples would be the following: “I missed Sunday Mass because I am lazy… I viewed pornographic videos three times for a half hour each time… I stole money from my Company because I am greedy… I willfully got drunk three times on the weekend with my alcoholic buddies.” These latter confessions are all concrete and expressive of the root cause! Excellent!

4. COMPLETE.  The Sacrament of Confession has to be complete. The Catechism of the Catholic Church, as well as the Code of Canon Law, specifies that for a Confession to be complete the penitent must confess both the number of mortal sins, as well as the species—meaning, the kind of sin that was committed. An example of this would be the following, a couple before getting married perhaps has not been to confession in a long time, perhaps a year. If this future husband has not been to Mass in a year and fell into premarital relations or abused drugs, then a complete Confession might be the following: “Bless me, Father, for I have sinned, my l last Confession was a year ago and these are my sins…. I abused drugs 10 times; missed Mass 52 times, and had premarital relations 15 times.” His Confession was perfectly confessed: both the specific number of times, as well as the type/species of sin. Then he hears these wonderful words: “… I absolve you of your sins in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen.”

Now if these Four C’s are applied in the Sacrament of Confession—Clear, Concise, Concrete and Complete, then God’s Sacramental grace of healing will descend upon our souls and we will leave the Confessional with a peace that passes all understanding. Seeking true peace of soul? Why not try making a good Sacramental Confession, you, as well as your entire family!

A General Confession

• The term “general confession” refers to going to confession and confessing all the mortal sins of one’s past life (or of an extended period, like the past year) whether confessed before or not.
• Instead of just confessing those mortal sins committed since one’s previous confession. This is not for the purpose of rehashing all of one’s past failures out of guilt, but rather it is an expression of confessing one’s past sins with deeper awareness, contrition and sorrow for the ways in which one has offended God.
• Also, maybe one has not made a good confession in the past by withholding and failing to confess certain serious sins due to embarrassment or shame. This is an incomplete confession and none of the sins confessed are forgiven until the withheld mortal sins are confessed as well. General confession is truly a freeing experience. From Isaiah, “Jesus came to set the captives free.” 
• All Mortal Sins must be confessed in number and kind. 
  • Code of Canon Law Section 988 Section 1
• If you can’t remember the exact number, give your best approximate number.
• One will experience only mercy and love in the Sacred Heart of Jesus.
• General confession is usually a turning point in one’s life. 
• Where one comes to terms with the fact that:
  • Maybe we have not made a good confession in the past.
  • Maybe we have held back sins because of shame and fear.
  • Maybe we’ve been clinging to old vestiges of iniquity that we could not relinquish until this day, this moment when we are able to make a General Confession.
  • Of great importance, if we fall again, confess as soon as possible, and begin again. 

NECESSARY CONDITIONS FOR A SIN TO BE MORTAL

1. Serious Matter
2. Full knowledge
3. Full Consent of the Will

Remember, ALL mortal sins must be confessed according to the kind (what type of sin) and the number of times committed for a valid confession. If one willingly withholds and conceals a mortal sin in confession, it is a sacrilege (which is another mortal sin) and it invalidates the absolution.

Preparing for a General Confession…

1. PRAY TO THE HOLY SPIRIT – Come Holy Spirit, open my eyes and restore my memory!

2. PRAY TO THE BLESSED VIRGIN MARY – Mary my Mother, pray for me and pray with me! Ask Mary to help you remember that God’s Mercy is greater than your sins!

3. EXAMINE YOUR CONSCIENCE THOROUGHLY. At least 2 hours, maybe 3 or 4!

4. WRITE DOWN ON PAPER all your MORTAL SINS for each of the Commandments – from the age of 7 years (age of reason) until you reach the present day. Whether you have confessed them before or not!

5. Write your mortal sins BY NAME. Sins against the Sixth Commandment in particular need to be specified by name: pornography, masturbation, fornication, adultery, homosexual acts, etc.

6. Write down the NUMBER OF TIMES you committed that mortal sin. Give your best guess, as close as you can.

7. After you have written down your sins by name and type based on the 10 Commandments, go over your list a SECOND TIME, even a THIRD TIME, to be sure you included all the mortal sins in your life. You want to leave the confessional with the certainty that you have confessed everything!

8. PRACTICE READING THE LIST OF YOUR SINS ALOUD BEFORE ENTERING THE CONFESSIONAL. Read your list out loud two or three times, keeping the time within 10 MINUTES.

9. IT IS THE PREPARATION, NOT THE CONFESSION, THAT IS ARDUOUS. Most of the repentance, sadness, tears, and prayers of contrition will come during the examination process BEFORE you get to the confessional!

10. CONFESS YOUR SINS TO THE PRIEST AUDIBLY in the confessional. Start by saying, “Bless me, Father, for I have sinned. It has been _______ (weeks/months/years) since my last confession.” Or if it is a Lifetime Confession you will say, “Bless me, Father, for I have sinned, this is a General Confession of all the mortal sins committed in my entire life.” Be humble, be honest, be thorough and complete, and you will experience God’s Infinite Mercy and His great Love for YOU!

EXAMINATION OF CONSCIENCE FOR ADULTS

1. FIRST COMMANDMENT: “I AM THE LORD YOUR GOD.  YOU SHALL NOT HAVE OTHER GODS BESIDES ME.”

• DO I PUT GOD FIRST? Do I see God as my best Friend? Do I try to grow in my love for God? We are here to know God, to love God, to serve God, and to go to heaven!
• DO I SEEK GOD? Do I strive to know God more? We cannot love someone we do not know, as in courtship or marriage; nor can we love God if we do not know Him.
• PRAYER. Do I devote serious time each day to pray alone and with my family? Am I lazy or negligent in prayer? Is my life centered on Christ and His teachings?
• SACRILEGE. Have I received the Lord in Holy Communion while having some grave sin on my conscience? Have I kept silent in confession because of shame about some mortal sin? If so, how many times? Also, confess the mortal sin withheld and the number of times committed.
• BLASPHEMY. Have I blasphemed? Have I sworn an oath needlessly or falsely?
• SUPERSTITION OR SPIRITUALISM. Have I visited a fortune-teller, sorcerer, mediums, a healer, or have I gone to have my cards read, tarot cards, believed in superstitions, horoscopes? Do I place my faith in amulets, objects or treat them as if they were God? Have I played with the Ouija board (aka witch’s wheel)?
• ANGRY WITH GOD. Do I feel that the Lord has let me down and not met my needs in any situation? Is there buried anger at God for something that has happened in my life? Because of my sorrows and sufferings, have I become angry with God? Because of my suffering over the death of a loved one? Have I spoken ill of God? Do I trust in God’s Providence? Do I believe that “God will provide”?
• ATHEISM: Have I categorically denied the existence of God?
• GENERAL ABSOLUTION. Have I participated in a service of ”general absolution” without going to a priest individually to receive absolution?
• DOUBTS. Do I believe all that God has revealed and that the Catholic Church teaches us? Have I questioned any articles of the Catholic faith? For example, about the primacy of the Pope, Mary, Hell or the Church’s teaching on human sexuality?
• SECTS AND OTHER RELIGIONS. Do I talk at length with Jehovah’s Witnesses, Mormons or Evangelists, endangering my own faith? Do I replace the Catholic Sunday Mass with a Protestant or Christian Sunday service? Do I attend their meetings?
• PARISH LIFE. Do I participate in the various ministries offered by the Catholic Church? For example: Mass, Bible Study meetings, Youth for Christ, Retreats. Do I try to grow in my faith, knowing that God must be above all else?
• IDOLS: Do I put people, places or things above God: such as money, fame, power, pleasure, sex, drugs, drinking, television and soap operas? Does God take first place in my life?
• FAITH, HOPE, LOVE: Do I try to grow in my faith in God and the Church? Hope – do I believe in His love and protection in spite of the problems in my life? Do I love Him? Or is my love for God cold, mediocre or anemic?
• “TOMORROW” PHILOSOPHY. Do I always put off God or the things of God until tomorrow? Do I believe all that God has revealed and the Catholic Church teaches us?
• COMMUNION AND CONFESSION. Do I go to Confession frequently? Do I take Communion every Sunday?
• FERVOR: What can I do to improve my relationship with God and His Church?
• MARRYING ONLY IN A CIVIL CEREMONY.  Was I married in a civil ceremony only? Being married only in a civil ceremony, or by some Jewish Rabbi, or by a Protestant minister, is a mortal sin. As a Catholic, getting married civilly or outside the Catholic Church is NOT a sacramental marriage.
• THE SACRAMENTAL LIFE OF CHILDREN. Have I delayed the baptism of my children?
• DELAYING HOLY COMMUNION OR CONFIRMATION. Have I postponed year after year the preparation of my children to receive Jesus in Holy Communion or their Confirmation?

2.  SECOND COMMANDMENT: YOU SHALL NOT TAKE THE NAME OF THE LORD YOUR GOD IN VAIN.

• BLASPHEMY. Have I cursed the name of God? Have I used the Holy Name of God with irreverence, anger, hatred, reproach or defiant hostility?
• VOWS OR PROMISES. Have I failed to keep the vows or promises that I have made to God?
• INSULT. Have I insulted God, Mary, the angels or saints? Do I blame God for all the evil in the world or do I blame God for the death of a loved one?
• PERJURY: Have I lied while under oath? Perjury is the act of taking an oath to tell the truth with intent to lie, conceal, or misrepresent the truth, whether spoken or written. Calling God as a witness and lying.
• BLASPHEMOUS FILMS. Have I supported or endorsed images or films that blaspheme God, e.g., ”The Da Vinci Code”?
• CONFESSION. Have I lied to the priest or deliberately kept silent about a serious sin in confession? Lying to the priest in the Sacrament of Confession is a grave sin! A person who deliberately keeps silent about a sin makes a bad confession, is not forgiven for any of their sins, and in addition, adds another terrible sin called sacrilege.
• IRREVERENCE AND HATRED TOWARD THE CHURCH: Have I spoken ill of the Church and of the Pope, the Bishops, priests, and monks who represent the Church?
• DISRESPECTFUL IN MY BEHAVIOR IN CHURCH. Have I disrespected the house of God by talking, chewing gum, dressing immodestly, laughing and disturbing others who want to pray in Church?
• DISRESPECT: Do I listen to others speak ill of God and the Church and do nothing to defend the Catholic faith?
• BROKEN PROMISES TO GOD. To promise something to God lightly, or not to fulfill what is promised. Have I broken a promise to God?
• DEFEND: Am I able to defend my Catholic faith?

THIRD COMMANDMENT: “KEEP HOLY THE SABBATH”

• MASS: Have I deliberately missed Mass on Sunday or Holy Days of Obligation?
• PUNCTUALITY: Am I habitually late for Mass?
• PARTICIPATION. Do I make an effort to participate in Holy Mass? Do I listen to the Word of God and participate in Holy Mass, or am I just a spectator?
• PROPER DRESS ATTIRE FOR MASS:  Do I dress modestly and with decorum when attending Mass?
• PARTICIPATE IN THE MASS WITH DEVOTION. Am I busy chatting with someone, texting or talking on my cell phone, or chewing gum during Holy Mass?
• DISTRACTIONS: Do I distract others at Mass by the way I behave?
• SETTING A BAD EXAMPLE FOR MY CHILDREN? Am I setting a bad example for my children by not being attentive or praying during Holy Mass? 
• COMMUNION: Do I receive Communion every Sunday? Do I hunger and thirst for Communion more often? Is Holy Communion the most important thing for me and my family and my life?
  • SALVATION AND COMMUNION. Jesus says in Jn. 6: “I AM THE BREAD OF LIFE, HE WHO EATS MY BODY AND DRINKS MY BLOOD SHALL HAVE ETERNAL LIFE AND I WILL RAISE HIM UP AT THE LAST DAY.”
• OUR EUCHARISTIC LORD. Does our Eucharistic Lord hold the first place in my life and in my hierarchy of values?
• INVITE FRIENDS BACK TO MASS: Do I invite others to come to Mass? Or am I a hindrance to others coming to Mass?
• ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE. Do I thank God for the gifts Jesus conferred on Holy Thursday? GIFTS: The Mass, the Eucharist, Priestly Orders, and the Commandment of Love. Am I grateful for all the benefits I have received from God?
• SABBATH REST. Do I sanctify Sunday, which is the Lord’s Day, or do I perform unnecessary and hard work on Sunday? Do I take a Sabbath rest? Do I try to spend the day with my family to strengthen my love for them? Do I try to pray a little more? Do I read good books that nourish my faith? Do I have a healthy hobby? Do I enjoy myself in a healthy way to avoid falling into vices?

FOURTH COMMANDMENT: “HONOR YOUR FATHER AND YOUR MOTHER”

• COMMUNICATION: Do I keep in touch with my parents? Do I talk to them? Do I write to them? Do I remember them at Christmas and on their birthdays?
  • If still under my parents’ care: Do I obey and honor my parents in what they reasonably ask of me?
• HELP: Do I help my parents when they need help? Do I send them money if they need it? Or do I neglect my parents in their old age or in their time of need?
• PRAYERS: Do I offer prayers for my parents and for their salvation?
• HATRED. Do I hold a grudge, plot vengeance, harbor resentment or hatred for my parents for something that happened in my life?
• OBEDIENCE: Was I very disobedient to my parents as a child or teenager?
• SHAME: Was I ashamed of my parents in the past or am I ashamed of them now because of their shortcomings?
• GOVERNMENT: Do I respect, listen and obey those who have legitimate authority over me (just laws)? Do I obey the laws of the land?
• PATRIOTISM: Do I love my country and pray for my country?
• EMPLOYER. Do I respect authority? Do I confront authority in a responsible way when I think it is wrong? Do I try to do my job by respecting my employer and doing my job well?
• CHURCH: Do I obey the Church and the advice given by priests?
• RELATIVES. Do I get along well with my relatives? In-laws? Do I live in a house that is too small, where I have conflicts due to lack of space and privacy?

PARENT’S OBLIGATION TO THEIR CHILDREN – AM I NEGLIGENT IN MY DUTY AS A PARENT?

• CONTRACEPTIVES: The use of contraceptives is a grave offense against God because of unwillingness to accept children. Am I guilty of this?
• BAPTISM: Have I delayed baptizing my children for trivial reasons, such as putting the social above the sacrament?
• COHABITATION. Do I live in a “common-law union” (cohabitation), setting a bad example for my children?
• CHILDREN LIVING IN A COMMON-LAW UNION. It is wrong for parents to allow their son or daughter to live in a free union with their boyfriend or girlfriend under the parent’s roof. Do I allow this scandal?
• FORMATION OF CHILDREN.  Do I teach and guide my children? Do I listen to them? Do I discipline them with wisdom? Do I educate them to be good a Christian? Do I provide for the religious education and formation of my children for as long as they are under my care? Am I attentive to their studies, school and homework?
• FRIENDSHIPS. Do I know my children’s FRIENDS? Do I see to it that they have good friends, or do I let them hang out with friends with harmful habits or gang members?
• TELEVISION. Do I allow my children to watch TV programs that could harm their mind, heart, soul and eternal salvation?
• MOVIES. Do I allow my children to watch bad movies?
• DO I KNOW WHERE MY CHILDREN ARE GOING AND WHO THEY ARE WITH? Do I allow my children to go out without knowing who they are with and where they are going?
• DATING. Do I give my son/daughter permission to date when they are really too young to date and could potentially get pregnant and have an abortion?
• CARE AND AFFECTION. Do I have a loving and affectionate relationship with my child/children? If kids are deprived of affection, they will seek it elsewhere.
• DISCIPLINE. Do I have the courage and fortitude to correct my children’s faults when they need correction?
• ADVICE. Do I advise my children in a way that they can avoid dangers or advise them with things that can help them in their future?
• PRESENCE. Am I present to my children or do I place work, entertainment, or drinking above my children? Are my children home alone?
• GRUDGE. Do I hold a grudge against my children? Is there anything I have not forgiven them for?

RELATIONSHIP WITH MY SPOUSE

• COMMUNICATION: Do I foster good communication with my spouse?
• LOVE: Do I strive to grow in my love for my spouse?
• RESPECT. Do I respect my spouse?
• VIOLENCE. Have I abused my spouse either physically or emotionally or do I treat him/her with love, respect, and dignity?
• TIME. Do I devote time to my spouse or am I constantly busy with other things such as work, television, or friends?
• ACTIVITIES. Do I neglect my spouse by placing hobbies and activities such as sports above him/her?
• JEALOUSY. Am I unreasonably jealous? Do I not trust my spouse? Do I constantly suspect him/her of cheating? Am I always wondering where he/she is going?
• OFFENSIVE WORDS. Do I use offensive words towards my spouse or children?
• WORK. Do I work to support my family?
• CLEANLINESS AND ORDER. Do I keep my home clean and tidy?
• CHILDREN AND CLEANLINESS. Do I teach my children to be tidy, to pick up, and keep their rooms and things clean?
• DISORDER. Have I been a disorderly and untidy person? Do I panic if I receive an unexpected visitor at home?

FIFTH COMMANDMENT: YOU SHALL NOT KILL

• MURDER. Have I intentionally killed a human being or procured, desired, or hastened the death of anyone?
• PHYSICAL HARM.  Have I physically harmed anyone?
• ABORTION. Have I been involved in an abortion, directly or indirectly (through giving advice, money, etc.)? Have I supported, promoted or encouraged the practice of assisted suicide or “mercy killing”?
• SUICIDE. Have I seriously considered or attempted suicide?
• GANGS. Have I been a member of a street gang? Have I acted violently or been involved in fights and/or shootings as a member of an active street gang?
• DRUGS. Have I taken illegal drugs or abused prescription drugs?
• ALCOHOL. Have I abused alcohol? Have I allowed myself to become intoxicated? Do I admit that I have a drinking problem? Have I damaged my body which is the temple of the Holy Spirit? Have I driven my vehicle while intoxicated or impaired?
• HATRED. Do I harbor hatred in my heart against anyone or wish them evil?
• VENGEANCE. Have I plotted against someone or sought revenge?
• WORDS. Do I kill with my tongue by using bad words, insults, curses or sarcasm?
• ANGER. Have I indulged in serious anger or refused to control my temper?
• MY HEALTH: Have I mutilated or harmed my body in any way? Have I desecrated my body by excessive or permanent tattoos or piercings? Do I neglect my health? Do I have bad eating habits or bad sleeping habits?
• THE “MORNING AFTER PILL”, ALSO KNOWN AS “PLAN B”. Have I used the “Morning after Pill” after having sexual relations?
• STERILIZATION. Have I mutilated myself through any form of sterilization? For example, Tubal ligation or Vasectomy, causing damage to the procreative organs that God has given us?
• ARTIFICIAL INSEMINATION. Have I engaged in any way in sins against human life such as artificial insemination or in vitro fertilization?
• DANGER. Do I put my life in danger? Do I have DANGEROUS FRIENDSHIPS OR ASSOCIATIONS: Drunks, drug addicts, violent people or drug dealers?
• EUTHANASIA. Have I ever approved of or participated in Euthanasia? Definition: Euthanasia is the action or omission that hastens the death of a terminally ill patient with the intention of avoiding suffering. It is killing a person because he or she is old or sick. We have the obligation to give food and water to the sick person. God determines the time of each person’s death, not us.
• KIDNAP and/or TORTURE. Have I participated in grave violations against the human person created in the image and likeness of God?

SIXTH & NINTH COMMANDMENTS 6. “YOU SHALL NOT COMMIT ADULTERY”   9. “YOU SHALL NOT COVET YOUR NEIGHBOR’S WIFE”

• IMPURITY. Have I committed impure acts with another – fornication (premarital sex), adultery (sexual act with a married person who is not your spouse)?
• COHABITATING / “LIVING TOGETHER” BEFORE MARRIAGE. Do I live in a free union or did I live in a free union prior to marriage?
• MASTURBATION. Have I committed impure acts on myself?
• CONTRACEPTIVES. Have I practiced artificial birth control?
• SEXUAL CLIMAX EXTRA-VAGINAL. That is, masturbation between spouses (interrupted intercourse). Have I deliberately caused male climax outside of normal sexual intercourse?
• HOMOSEXUAL ACTIVITY. Have I engaged in homosexual activity, that is, sexual activity with someone of the same sex?
• RAPE. Have I violated the integrity and dignity of a person; forcibly compelling him/her to carnal intimacy?
• FLIRTING. Have I flirted or fostered improper relationships with someone, either in my mind or through my words and actions?
• DANCES AND RESTAURANTS. As a married man or woman, have I gone out with a person who is not my spouse on a date or dance?
• BARS AND NIGHTCLUBS. Do I go to bars and nightclubs and give my eyes free reign? “Whoever looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Mt 5:28)
• SOAP OPERAS. As a woman, do I give free rein to my imagination by thinking of a handsome man I see in a soap opera?
• MOVIES AND TELEVISION. Have I watched bad programs on television or at the movies, knowing that I offend God? Am I aware that God is recording the movie of my life?
• JOKES. Do I tell jokes that I know are in bad taste, impure or indecent?
• DRESS: Do I dress immodestly and set a bad example for my sons and daughters and others?
• THOUGHTS. As a married man or woman, do I dream about my ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend?
• FANTASIES. Do I let my imagination run free and think dangerous thoughts that lead to impure desires or actions?
• PLACES. Do I go to improper places that result in sinful thoughts or behaviors?
• PORNOGRAPHY. Do I look at pornography: magazines, television, movies, on the Internet, on my phone? Have I watched pornographic material? How many times a week and for how long? Do I share, spread pornographic material to others?
• COMPUTER: Do I download pornography from the Internet and bad sites? Do I pay attention to and control my children’s computer use?
• EYES. Do I fail to keep custody of my eyes as I walk down the street or at work (remember the sin of King David)?
• MIND. Have I willfully entertained impure thoughts? Jesus says, “Blessed are the pure in heart for they shall see God.” (Mt. 5:8)
• OBJECT.  Do I see a woman or man as an object to be utilized and not as a son or daughter of God?
• SEXTING. Have I sent sexually explicit messages or images by cell phone?
• DRESSING IMMODESTLY. Have I purposely dressed immodestly?
• PROSTITUTION. Have I engaged in prostitution or paid for the services of a prostitute?

SEVENTH COMMANDMENT: “YOU SHALL NOT STEAL”

• STEALING. Have I stolen (taken something that does not belong to me). Have I deliberately defaced, destroyed or lost another’s property?
• SHOPLIFTING. Have I shoplifted or switched price tags?
• TAXES. Have I paid my taxes?
• LOANS. Have I paid back money that I borrowed?
• BILLS. Do I pay my bills and rent? Have I failed to make good on a debt?
• ENVY: Have I envied others on account of their possessions?
• MATERIALIST: Do I always look for and want to have more and more things? Am I content with what I have?
• SHOPPING. Do I shop for things when there is no need?
• GAMBLING. Am I squandering money by compulsive gambling and thus depriving my family of their daily needs?
• WORK. Am I late for work? Am I working half-heartedly, not earning my paycheck by the sweat of my brow?
• WORRY. Do I worry about the future? Do I trust God? God’s Word asks us not to worry about tomorrow; to see how He provides for the lilies of the field and the birds of the air.

EIGHTH COMMANDMENT: “YOU SHALL NOT BEAR FALSE WITNESS AGAINST YOUR NEIGHBOR.”

• PERJURY. Have I perjured myself under oath?
• LIED. Have I lied?
• GOSSIP. Do I speak badly of others behind their back?
• DETRACTION. Did I sin by detraction, that is, by telling the faults of another person without necessity?
• SLANDER. Have I damaged the good name of another?
• OFFENSIVE WORDS.  Read James, Chapter 3, on the sins of the tongue as an examination.
• SILENCE. Do I keep silent when I should speak?
• TONGUE. Do I kill with my tongue?
• ANGER. Am I angry and exaggerate?
• SPEAKING. Do I speak without thinking and “put my foot in my mouth”? Am I impulsive? Do I talk and talk, am I a chatterbox?
• PHONE: Do I spend a lot of time on the phone wasting time and money?
• HYPOCRISY: Do I accuse and condemn other people’s faults and not try to correct my own faults?

NINTH COMMANDMENT: “YOU SHALL NOT DESIRE YOUR NEIGHBOR’S WIFE” (Supra – covered above)

TENTH COMMANDMENT: “YOU SHALL NOT DESIRE YOUR NEIGHBOR’S GOODS”. AVARICE/GREED

• Am I jealous of what other people have?
• Am I greedy or selfish?
• Are material possessions the purpose of my life?

ACT OF CONTRITION

O my God, I am heartily sorry for having offended Thee, and I detest all my sins because of Thy just punishments, but most of all because they offend Thee, my God, who art all good and deserving of all my love.

I firmly resolve with the help of Thy grace to sin no more and to avoid the near occasions of sin. Amen.